56. Offer to buy a round.
If people are just standing around, buy a round. If people look bored, buy a round. If you need to get the party started, take charge and buy a round. Don’t be the girl that just waits to be handed a drink.
Let’s get down to business.
55. “You are what you do, not what you say.”
- Carl Gustav Jung
54. Don’t be flakey.
If you said you’d do it, do it. If you said you’d be there, go. If you have no intention of doing either, it’s infinitely better to say “no” with an apology than it is to flake out.
Reliability is an important, but humble trait to have. Know that people may not always thank you for being dependable, but no one will hesitate to criticize you for being flakey.
53. After a breakup, cut off all lines of communication.
ALL. I mean it. That means no calling him (even if he calls you first) and no texting him (even if he texts you first). I don’t care if it’s his birthday, if his mom is sick, or if he’s crying - DO NOT make contact with him.
I know it’s hard, and I know you miss him, but believe me, you’ll never get over him if you don’t let yourself see what life is like without him. Who knows, maybe you WILL get back together later on down the road - but before you can make the decision that life is better with him in it, you need to see what life is truly like without him in it.
52. “Happy girls are the prettiest.”
- Audrey Hepburn
Because no one wants to be around a miserable bitch. Smile once in a while!
51. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it.
Hate your hair color? Dye it.
Unhappy with your weight? Change your diet.
Wish you were more outgoing? Talk.
Unhappy with your surroundings? Move.
You have so much more control over your own life than you realize. Don’t ever let YOU be the factor that holds you back from what you want out of life - it is YOUR life, after all. Own it. Once you can realize and embrace your own ability, the world opens up with endless opportunity.
50. Visit a foreign destination long enough to feel like a local.
Beyond sight-seeing and and tourist attractions, try to stay an extra day or so and just live in the city - without itineraries or to-do lists. Hop in a cafe and spend an afternoon sipping coffee and people watching. Lay out a blanket at the park. Pick up groceries at the neighborhood market and have dinner at home. One of my personal favorites - shopping their local pharmacy or convenience stores for everyday necessities like shampoo, eyeliner, and snacks. It’s these moments that you can begin to get to know the city for what it is.
49. Be friends with your husband.
Or your fiancé, or your boyfriend, whichever the case may be. You should be friends with that person. Those titles of HUSBAND, WIFE, BOYFRIEND, GIRLFRIEND can oftentimes cause us to settle into a particular role that makes us forget who we were before those titles became so heavy on our shoulders. Sometimes we forget that the person we spend the most time with, day in and day out, should also be your friend.
Laugh together. Spend time together. Do fun things together. After all, you should WANT to hang out with them.
Because it’s more fun with them than without.
48. Instead of thinking of your next great idea, work on executing a great idea you already have.
You can think of great ideas all day long, but until you actually take steps to bring one of those ideas to life, all they’ll be are dreams. It’s the same with plans. You can make future plans until the cows come home, but they’ll never become real life events until you execute one of them.
Go ahead, take that first step. Make that reservation. Call your mom. Open up a Word document. Buy that mixer. Register for that class. Put on those running shoes.
47. Save your receipts.
Make it a habit to save ALL your receipts, even if it’s just stuffed into your wallet. You’ll probably change your mind. You know you will.
That moment when impulse shopping turns into buyer’s remorse. It can be remedied.
46. It’s impossible to be bored.
The phrase I’m bored should never pass through your lips. The only person that can make you feel “bored” is you. There are an infinite number of ways to make your life exciting - all you have to do is pick one. Choose your own adventures.
Only boring people get bored.